Prom 2008 To Do List

Hey Girls!! Whether it's been years since your last highschool prom, or it'll be years until you get to go to prom, or you're like me and stressing out about your prom this year, I'm sure you can all relate to the list below and will find it, if nothing else, entertaining!

1. Find a date! Not just anyone though...he has to be cute, with a hot body, tall, a good dancer, oh and a nice personality would be good too. (Makes you wonder if he even exists huh?!) Those of you with boyfriends have got it made! Built-in prom date. For the rest of us, it's time to start looking for that perfect guy!
2. Find a dress. This can sometimes be even harder than finding the date. You've got to find the right color, style, and size all on a single dress. Plus, once you do find the perfect one, it'll probably be about $200 over your budget.
3. Exercise and Diet. Alright, now it's time to try to fit into that dress you bought. If you are planning on being in the best physical shape in time for prom, start exercising and eating a little healthier NOW. Fitness takes time and is no fun at all, but are we gonna do?
4. Find shoes. Prom shoes....not an easy task. They have to match the dress. Also, if you've got a short date and don't want to be towering over him, you've got to find short heels, which can be harder than it sounds.
5. Choose a Group. Can you say drama?? There is always trouble trying to decide who you are going to go with besides your date, although going with just him is always an option, and probably a lot less complicated. But if you do go with a group do you go with his friends or yours? Should you take a limo? Who will you invite to go with you?
6. Details. Some of you lucky girls will end up with boys who are really good at planning. The majority of us will end up with boys who would rather watch tv than even think about what to do before and after prom. So this will be up to you. Where should you have dinner? Do you want to take pictures beforehand? Should you go to a party afterward? Yep, all up to you.
7. Boutonniere. For those of you who are wondering what that big word is...it's the little flower you're going to pin to your date's suit before you leave for prom. He should get you a corsage (goes on your wrist). If he doesn't it can be a little awkward...also, it's always hard to make sure that the two of you get matching colors, ribbons, flowers, etc. Such a hassle, but what are you going to do? (And it'll be a disaster if you stab him while trying to pin it on so practice on a pillow or something before.)
8. Nail and Hair Appointments. Although fun, these both cost money. Nails are gorgeous but if you get your hair done don't go too crazy, you want your date to recognize you!!
9. Getting Ready! It's the big day and naturally it will take the whole day to get ready. You'll have to do your makeup, pick up your boutonniere, get into your dress and you may want to get ready with friends (although that can stress you out even more)
10. Awkward Pictures. There's no avoiding that awful moment right before you're about to leave when you're parents say, "Oh wait! Let's get pictures!" He puts his arm awkwardly around you and you both smile stiffly for the pictures. It sucks but there's really not any way to get around it.

Anyone else a little stressed?! And anyone else beginning to wonder if trying to find a date, a dress, dieting, exercising, and primping is all really worth just ONE night? Sure it'll be fun, but is it really worth all that trouble? I'm beginning to wonder...

Secrets Don't Make Friends...They Make Best Friends

It's happened to all of us, all the sudden you realize you just started your period and really need a tampon...dire emergency right?! So you lean over to your best friend and in a whisper, ask if she has one with her. Suddenly, some obnoxious girl from the back of the room calls out, "Secrets don't make friends!" I mean seriously, every time you whisper to someon does EVERYONE else need to know what you said? No, definately not. In fact, it's normally better if they don't know what you were whispering about.

From personal experience it seems pretty clear to me that about 90% of the time that someone decides to use that line, "secrets don't make friends," the secret wasn't about that person at all, but was simply something that wasn't meant to be shared with the whole room. Most likely you were whispering about something that you didn't want to tell everyone else simply because it was irrevelant to them. You wouldn't mind if they heard, but it would take a long time to explain the situation so they wouldn't understand anyway. Other times it's about you personally, something that is no else's business. If you wanted to tell them everything about yourself, you would be whispering to them.

On the very rare occasion that you were actually talking about something that needed to be kept secret from that other nosy person in the room, can you imagine if you actually told them what it was when they demanded to hear it?? Maybe you were saying you would NEVER wear that outfit, or that you had made out with that girl's ex last weekend. In these rare cases, secrets keep friends! If you spilled the secret to the nosy girl she would not be your friend, she would most likely hate you. By telling your secrets to the right people you create stronger relationships with people who you can trust and avoid ending relationships with those who could be hurt by your secret.

Obviously, it's best not to have secrets at all. Life without them would be easy, but the reality is that they are absolutely innevitable, and some things are simply not meant to be heard by all ears. Try to be upfront with people but if you need to keep something to yourself, don't go whispering about it to some people in front of others. And next time someone decides to say, "Secrets don't make friends," assure her that they make BEST FRIENDS!